How to make a marriage work? It’s according to a set of rules and principles that marriage work. A healthy marriage is based upon the feelings of love, communication, and safety. In an unhealthy one lies jealousy, lack of communication, and power tussle. No one can deny the ups and downs in a married relationship. But in a healthy marriage, there should be no place of violence or fear. At no point, you should feel as if your partner is going to tear you apart.